Friday, 7 August 2015
Giving Thanks: How Gratitude Can Save Your Relationship - (CONTINUED)
you think of two or three things every day that you love and appreciate about your partner. You don’t even need to tell him you’re doing this or what the things are. Just think about it every day and write it down. And like I did in my exercise, think of new things every day. It can be things he did for you or things about him. Focus on everything he does right and see how that impacts your relationship. (Mark my words, you’ll start seeing major changes within about a week or two.)
Even if you aren’t having major issues in your relationship, anytime your partner does something that annoys or frustrates you, just think about a few reasons why you care about him and why you’re grateful to have him in your life.
I just want to add that this does not apply to relationships where there is physical or emotional abuse. I’m talking about healthy, functioning relationships that just get rocky from time to time…as most relationships do.
If you’re single, think about what you love about your life right now. Think about what you’re appreciative for and good things that have happened throughout the day. I think writing it out is best because it makes it more real, but if that feels like too much of a commitment then just spend time every day reflecting on it.
Practicing gratitude on a daily basis can literally re-wire you. It can transform the way you think which will change the way you feel and the vibe you transmit. People can naturally pick up on the vibes someone is sending out. When you feel bitter or angry or jaded on the inside, it will come across on the outside no matter how you try to hide it. There is no faking being in a good place. You have to work on it, and if you do, suddenly everything will change and you’ll notice enormous improvements in all areas of your life.
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Giving Thanks: How Gratitude Can Save Your Relationship
One of the first life lessons little kids are taught is to always say, “thank you.” When someone does something nice for you, you thank them. It’s a concept that is drummed into our heads starting at the age of about two. But you’ll notice that saying thanks doesn’t come easy. Very rarely does a kid remember to say it – it usually follows a prompt by a parent…now what do you say? And it never gets easier.
Gratitude doesn’t come easily or naturally to most of us; rather, it’s a skill that needs to be honed and crafted. But when you get it down, it can literally change your life. Countless studies have demonstrated that expressing gratitude can vastly increase our physical and emotional well-being.
Gratitude can also have enormous implications for your relationship…and your ability to find love if you aren’t currently in a relationship. When both partners see the good in one another and feel appreciative, the relationship is filled with love, connection, and harmony. When both partners focus on what the other isn’t doing and take each other for granted, the relationship is filled with resentment, frustration, and bitterness.
The truth is, a good relationship starts with you. When you bring positivity and happiness into the relationship, your partner will rise up to match and then your relationship will flourish. I’m not saying the responsibility is on the woman – it goes both ways. But the only person you can control is yourself.
If you want your life and your relationship to improve, you can’t blame circumstances or your partner. Instead, you need to take responsibility and make internal changes that lead to external ones. And the most important lesson is that of giving thanks.
Read on to find out how it’s done and why it’s so important.
Why Is It So Hard?
Life can tear a lot of us down. As the years go by, bitter experiences pile up and our hearts become shrouded with hurt and pain. The more jaded we become, the harder it is to see beyond the darkness and feel thankful for anything. A lot of us become the victims of our own lives and we feel justified in it. We blame our parents, our upbringing, the boy who broke our heart, the bad economy. I’m not saying none of it is valid, but when you dwell on all the bad hands you’ve been dealt, you fuel the fire of anger and resentment and this only makes for an even more miserable experience.
When it comes to relationships, expressing gratitude can be even more challenging because the stakes are so much higher. Romantic relationships can cause many emotions to rise to the surface…some are good and exhilarating, and some are bad and rooted in pain from the past. All of us look at life through a lens that is colored by our own experiences and we form certain expectations as a result. When you measure a guy against this code of expected behavior, he will always fall short and you will always feel disappointed. The reason he’ll fall short is because no one can get it right every single time. He isn’t a mind reader and he has been shaped by a whole different set of experiences.
When you think a guy should do something, and if he doesn’t it means he doesn’t care, then you ignore all the things he does that show he does care and get all riled up because of a few things that you (or rather, your unconscious mind) think a man should do when he loves a woman. You feel hurt and unloved and might start blaming him for “making” you feel a certain way. When you’re in this head space, you will not be able to appreciate anything he does and will silently resent him for not doing more. He can text you back promptly every single time and you will still get upset the one time he takes a little longer to get back to you.
When You Appreciate A Man…
Everyone likes appreciation; we all want to be seen and acknowledged for what we do. But appreciation hits different notes for men and women. Typically, women want to feel adored and cherished above anything else in order to feel happy in a relationship. Men need to feel appreciated and acknowledged. If a man doesn’t feel that, he will either leave the relationship or will stay in it and feel miserable.
When a man feels like a woman appreciates him, he will go above and beyond to make her happy. It’s not just about appreciating what he does, it’s about appreciating who he is. What men want more than anything is a woman who is happy with him. That’s really it. And a woman who expresses gratitude and is happy with who he is and what he does is the woman he wants to commit himself to.
The more gratitude you feel for him, the more connected he will feel to you and the more he will come to appreciate you. I’m not saying you’re never allowed to be disappointed or upset with him, but there is a difference between disapproving of an action and disapproving of a person. You can express your discontent in a loving way that still conveys an appreciation for his character as opposed to a punishing and blaming way that makes him feel bad or guilty.
If you want more love from your man, you need to make him feel loved and the way to do this is to show genuine appreciation for the things he does. Look at the intention, not the action. He’s not going to get it right every single time – that just isn’t possible. But the majority of the time, his intentions are good. He set out to make you happy and that deserves to be appreciated. You don’t need to give him anything in return – just you being happy with who he is and what he does is all he needs from you.
How to Train Yourself to Be More Grateful
Now that we’ve covered why it’s important to be grateful, let’s talk about tangible ways to do it.
I think the most powerful way to re-train your mind to be more grateful is to keep a gratitude journal. A teacher of mine gave me this suggestion many years ago and I thought it was the most ridiculous thing I had ever heard. I considered myself a very grateful person and did not see how this would benefit me at all. But then I gave it a try and wow…it was not as easy as I expected. My teacher told me to write down three things I was grateful for every day. Easy enough. The catch was that they always had to be different, as in no reruns.
As the days passed and the exercise got a little more difficult, I noticed myself changing. I started to live every day actively looking for things to be grateful for. Usually this was because I wanted to come up with three things and just be done with it, like getting in an early morning workout. I thought it would only continue to get harder but a funny thing happened after a few weeks…it actually got easier. And soon, I was finding way more than just three new things to be grateful for each day. I kept going with this for months and can affirm that it is absolutely life- changing. I felt so calm and so at ease and just happier all around.
If you are having trouble in your relationship, I highly suggest
by Sabrina Alexis
Real Reason Men Cheat
Being cheated on is one of the most painful, shattering experiences, one that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. I unfortunately know first hand how brutal it is. You feel betrayed, your trust is destroyed, your self-esteem is ravaged, and you can’t stop questioning what you did wrong and what signs you must have missed.
The one thing I wish I had realized a decade ago, when the guy I considered to be the love of my life cheated on me, is that it really had nothing to do with me, it was the result of his own internal issues. And that’s how it usually goes. The reason I was so confused back then is I didn’t have an understanding of the male psyche, and I didn’t know the internal psychological factors that cause men to cheat.
I am not saying there is an excuse why he did it, but there is a reason. And knowing the reason can be therapeutic in a way. So here is the real reason why men cheat:
Men don’t cheat because they’re scumbags or scoundrels. It’s not because they can’t control themselves and oftentimes is not because they no longer desire you . Men usually are tempted to cheat when they no longer feel like winners in their relationship. This isn’t true of all men, but it is for most. I’m not talking about narcissists or sociopaths or guys with major commitment issues. I’m talking about normal, stable dudes.
A man’s most fundamental drive in this world is to feel like a winner. He needs to feel like he is “conquering,” like he is significant, like he is having an impact on the world, like his is pursuing his mission in life. Women are typically more driven by the desire to connect and build interpersonal relationships. When a woman cheats, it’s usually because her emotional needs are no longer being met—maybe she no longer feels seen or cared for or understood. When a man cheats, it is most often because he feels like a loser in the relationship. He feels like he is constantly disappointing his woman and nothing he does is good enough.
He may feel like she no longer desires him sexually, like she doesn’t appreciate him, like she’s disappointed in him, like she isn’t impressed by him. If these feelings converge with him meeting a woman who is turned on by him, who does value him, who does appreciate him, who makes him feel like a man well….
I’m not saying cheating in this case is okay or acceptable. I’m not giving excuses; I’m just giving a reason. When my ex cheated on me I was devastated and thought he was the world’s biggest scumbag. I hated him and I hated her and I hated myself for getting involved with him and expending all that time and energy on him and the relationship. However, in looking back I can understand exactly why it happened.
You see, his life was in utter shambles when he and I started dating. He had just been dumped by a girl he loved, he was failing miserably at his job, he was in debt, and he was completely lost with no direction or purpose in life. Being young and naive and having no real understanding of what love is except for what I saw in the movies, I thought my love could heal him somehow. I thought if I loved him enough then he would snap out of his funk and be the man I knew he could be. But I did it all wrong. I didn’t encourage him to get his act together and instead, tried to take care of everything for him. I thought if I made his life as easy and manageable as possible he would love me even more and would suddenly find the motivation to get his life in order. I paid for our dates because he couldn’t afford to, I did his laundry (…because he couldn’t afford to), I cleaned his apartment, I fixed his resume, I searched for job listings online and applied to them for him, I kept doing and doing and was baffled as to why he kept sinking deeper into his rut.
After many months of things going from bad to worse, of our once passion-filled relationship drying up into an almost platonic, mother-son type of dynamic, he cheated on me and swiftly entered into a relationship with said mistress. If that wasn’t bad enough, within a few weeks of them dating he all of a sudden transformed into the man he could never be with me! He got a real job, he committed to her, he took her on romantic dates, he was happy and alive. I felt devastated and I beat myself up over it for months. What does she have that I don’t have? Where did I go wrong? Why wasn’t I good enough?
The answers didn’t come until several years later with both the wisdom that comes with experience and my somewhat hasty decision to reach out to him and ask the questions that had been haunting me. The short version of this very long conversation is that while he did love and care for me, being with me made him feel like an even bigger loser. The more I tried to “fix” him, the more damaged he felt. The more I did for him, the more useless he felt. The more I tried to make his life easier, the more comfortable he became with his own misery.
Cheating usually is the result of an easy opportunity and him feeling like a loser, either in life or in his relationship. In order to feel valuable and significant again, he may give in to temptation, it doesn’t matter how much he loves his partner. I know it may sound ridiculous to you, but this really is a testament to how vital a man’s need to feel like a winner is. Men will often sacrifice things that they truly hold dear simply to temporarily get rid of the feeling of being a loser.
Affairs usually start when a man feels misunderstood, like the areas of his life that are important to him are being criticized or deemed not important. Then he finds a woman appreciates him, who gives him something he isn’t getting from his primary relationship…and he strays. It’s not that he doesn’t love his partner, she just can no longer connect to him in the way he wants most and when that sort of pure appreciation comes from another source he can’t help but be drawn to it.
For example, let’s say a guy is a programmer. During the workday, he is on fire with passion and thrives off of meeting the daily challenges of his job. After killing it all day, he comes home feeling on top of the world and wants to share that energy with his girl. She quickly dismisses him and says, “You know I don’t understand all that technical stuff, it just makes no sense to me. Can we talk about something else?” Bam, he has officially shut down. He feels like she doesn’t accept the most important part of his life, the thing that makes him feel effective and worthwhile.
Since she doesn’t care about what he does, he seeks that type of understanding elsewhere. He may spend more time with people who are part of that world, or are passionate about the same kind of mission. Maybe a girl will come along who finds what he does sexy, and she appreciates him for the effort and passion he puts into it. When he’s with her, he gets all this validation and appreciation for the man he is and the mission he’s on. He feels good about himself around her, he feels seen, he feels desired….and these things combined have the potential to take him down a bad path.
You don’t have to study code or take programming classes. It doesn’t even matter if you’re the most technologically challenged person on the planet. You don’t have to connect to the technical side at all, what you should try to connect with are the emotions he feels about it. It’s easy to recognize when a man is excited about something, when he’s driven to win and succeed. You aren’t responsible for his entire emotional wellbeing, he also needs to live his life in a way where he feels good about himself and that doesn’t only come from you. You can’t change him or control him, all you can do is try to build a meaningful connection and support his aspirations in life (and he should do the same for you as well).
When a man is with a woman who taps into his vision and what he wants out of life, and tries to connect to these areas, he feels empowered and inspired and he won’t ever want to do anything to jeopardize the relationship.
I want to just add that I do not think it is ever okay to cheat. I think it is cruel and selfish and I am not excusing it in any way…I’m explaining it. More than anything I hope by understanding the reason you won’t blame yourself for his transgression and think it said something about you….which is the huge mistake I made.
by Sabrina Alexis
The one thing I wish I had realized a decade ago, when the guy I considered to be the love of my life cheated on me, is that it really had nothing to do with me, it was the result of his own internal issues. And that’s how it usually goes. The reason I was so confused back then is I didn’t have an understanding of the male psyche, and I didn’t know the internal psychological factors that cause men to cheat.
I am not saying there is an excuse why he did it, but there is a reason. And knowing the reason can be therapeutic in a way. So here is the real reason why men cheat:
Men don’t cheat because they’re scumbags or scoundrels. It’s not because they can’t control themselves and oftentimes is not because they no longer desire you . Men usually are tempted to cheat when they no longer feel like winners in their relationship. This isn’t true of all men, but it is for most. I’m not talking about narcissists or sociopaths or guys with major commitment issues. I’m talking about normal, stable dudes.
A man’s most fundamental drive in this world is to feel like a winner. He needs to feel like he is “conquering,” like he is significant, like he is having an impact on the world, like his is pursuing his mission in life. Women are typically more driven by the desire to connect and build interpersonal relationships. When a woman cheats, it’s usually because her emotional needs are no longer being met—maybe she no longer feels seen or cared for or understood. When a man cheats, it is most often because he feels like a loser in the relationship. He feels like he is constantly disappointing his woman and nothing he does is good enough.
He may feel like she no longer desires him sexually, like she doesn’t appreciate him, like she’s disappointed in him, like she isn’t impressed by him. If these feelings converge with him meeting a woman who is turned on by him, who does value him, who does appreciate him, who makes him feel like a man well….
I’m not saying cheating in this case is okay or acceptable. I’m not giving excuses; I’m just giving a reason. When my ex cheated on me I was devastated and thought he was the world’s biggest scumbag. I hated him and I hated her and I hated myself for getting involved with him and expending all that time and energy on him and the relationship. However, in looking back I can understand exactly why it happened.
You see, his life was in utter shambles when he and I started dating. He had just been dumped by a girl he loved, he was failing miserably at his job, he was in debt, and he was completely lost with no direction or purpose in life. Being young and naive and having no real understanding of what love is except for what I saw in the movies, I thought my love could heal him somehow. I thought if I loved him enough then he would snap out of his funk and be the man I knew he could be. But I did it all wrong. I didn’t encourage him to get his act together and instead, tried to take care of everything for him. I thought if I made his life as easy and manageable as possible he would love me even more and would suddenly find the motivation to get his life in order. I paid for our dates because he couldn’t afford to, I did his laundry (…because he couldn’t afford to), I cleaned his apartment, I fixed his resume, I searched for job listings online and applied to them for him, I kept doing and doing and was baffled as to why he kept sinking deeper into his rut.
After many months of things going from bad to worse, of our once passion-filled relationship drying up into an almost platonic, mother-son type of dynamic, he cheated on me and swiftly entered into a relationship with said mistress. If that wasn’t bad enough, within a few weeks of them dating he all of a sudden transformed into the man he could never be with me! He got a real job, he committed to her, he took her on romantic dates, he was happy and alive. I felt devastated and I beat myself up over it for months. What does she have that I don’t have? Where did I go wrong? Why wasn’t I good enough?
The answers didn’t come until several years later with both the wisdom that comes with experience and my somewhat hasty decision to reach out to him and ask the questions that had been haunting me. The short version of this very long conversation is that while he did love and care for me, being with me made him feel like an even bigger loser. The more I tried to “fix” him, the more damaged he felt. The more I did for him, the more useless he felt. The more I tried to make his life easier, the more comfortable he became with his own misery.
Cheating usually is the result of an easy opportunity and him feeling like a loser, either in life or in his relationship. In order to feel valuable and significant again, he may give in to temptation, it doesn’t matter how much he loves his partner. I know it may sound ridiculous to you, but this really is a testament to how vital a man’s need to feel like a winner is. Men will often sacrifice things that they truly hold dear simply to temporarily get rid of the feeling of being a loser.
Affairs usually start when a man feels misunderstood, like the areas of his life that are important to him are being criticized or deemed not important. Then he finds a woman appreciates him, who gives him something he isn’t getting from his primary relationship…and he strays. It’s not that he doesn’t love his partner, she just can no longer connect to him in the way he wants most and when that sort of pure appreciation comes from another source he can’t help but be drawn to it.
For example, let’s say a guy is a programmer. During the workday, he is on fire with passion and thrives off of meeting the daily challenges of his job. After killing it all day, he comes home feeling on top of the world and wants to share that energy with his girl. She quickly dismisses him and says, “You know I don’t understand all that technical stuff, it just makes no sense to me. Can we talk about something else?” Bam, he has officially shut down. He feels like she doesn’t accept the most important part of his life, the thing that makes him feel effective and worthwhile.
Since she doesn’t care about what he does, he seeks that type of understanding elsewhere. He may spend more time with people who are part of that world, or are passionate about the same kind of mission. Maybe a girl will come along who finds what he does sexy, and she appreciates him for the effort and passion he puts into it. When he’s with her, he gets all this validation and appreciation for the man he is and the mission he’s on. He feels good about himself around her, he feels seen, he feels desired….and these things combined have the potential to take him down a bad path.
You don’t have to study code or take programming classes. It doesn’t even matter if you’re the most technologically challenged person on the planet. You don’t have to connect to the technical side at all, what you should try to connect with are the emotions he feels about it. It’s easy to recognize when a man is excited about something, when he’s driven to win and succeed. You aren’t responsible for his entire emotional wellbeing, he also needs to live his life in a way where he feels good about himself and that doesn’t only come from you. You can’t change him or control him, all you can do is try to build a meaningful connection and support his aspirations in life (and he should do the same for you as well).
When a man is with a woman who taps into his vision and what he wants out of life, and tries to connect to these areas, he feels empowered and inspired and he won’t ever want to do anything to jeopardize the relationship.
I want to just add that I do not think it is ever okay to cheat. I think it is cruel and selfish and I am not excusing it in any way…I’m explaining it. More than anything I hope by understanding the reason you won’t blame yourself for his transgression and think it said something about you….which is the huge mistake I made.
by Sabrina Alexis
by Sabrina Alexis
by Sabrina Alexis
Thursday, 6 August 2015
Home » Uncategorized » 10 TYPES OF WOMEN WH0SE HUSBANDS WILL ALWAYS CHEAT (SEE PHOTO) 10 TYPES OF WOMEN WH0SE HUSBANDS WILL ALWAYS CHEAT
Many women actually believe every man cheats and so have come to the conclusion that, “All men are the same,” but it’s not every man that cheats, there are some men who are just not into the habit of cheating but some women actually push them into it with the way they treat them or their behaviour, forcing them to jump into the hands of another woman.
Unfortunately, as human as we are, nobody wishes to accept blame and so we find women on all platforms trying to make the whole world believe that men are natural cheats but never mention what they do that makes men cheat. They are always the perfect side, “men are just not satisfied and that’s why they cheat” is the phrase that comes from women all the time.
Women need to know among them, those who men are likely to cheat on based on their character or behaviour, so we compiled a list of types of women that men are likely to cheat on and here are 10 of them.
Disrespectful Women
Men naturally have ego problems (Yes! We accept that) and if you’re the kind of woman who is really disrespectful, it insults a man’s ego and so if he finds a woman who worships and gives him that maximum respect, we are sorry to say, he’s going to move with her.
Your man may love you deeply, but if you don’t respect him as a man and always treat him as trash, he’s likely to cheat on you. This includes women who always want a man to know she knows her right and wants the man to bow to her and also insults and speaks trash to him in public. If it goes on for a long time, he might not say a word, but he will definitely find a woman who treats him like a King and drop you like hot coal.
Nagging Women
Every woman nags but there are some women who are just outrageous, totally out of this world and can even make a man go crazy. They nag so much they can even follow you to your work place to continue with it.
If you know you are that type of woman, then at one point in time, he’s likely to cheat on you. Usually, when a woman nags to the point where her man finds it uncontrollable, he tries to find a place where he can have his peace of mind and so when the opportunity presents itself, he’s definitely going to give it a nod.
Overly Jealous Women
It’s normal to be jealous over the person you love, for even the God we serve is a jealous God, so this means jealousy is part of us. But though we have God, there are still smaller gods around, we don’t see God with all His might sending down fire and brimstone on all the other gods to burn them into ashes.
Some women are just too jealous and will go about fighting any woman who gets close to their boyfriend or husband. They even sometimes end up fighting the man’s sister or mother, they ruin everything for the man, both at home and at work. There’s no peace of mind in the house.
With such women, what happens is that, you usually find them sneaking into the man’s phone, trousers, shoes, etc. searching for evidence that do not exist. If you know you are a woman who is into such behaviour, then you should know you’re calling more harm unto yourself than good. When you keep doing that and the man is the type who doesn’t cheat or hasn’t cheated yet, what happens is, he will decide to cheat to fulfill your wish and constant accusations. It’s like calling an innocent person a criminal, it gets to a point, they really commit the crime.
Bad Cook
There’s a saying that, “The way to man’s heart is through his stomach” and trust us, a woman who is a good cook always has an upper hand. To some extent, this saying is true because if you know how to cook good food, it brings respect to himself and his friends and relatives especially in our African setting.
If he tells you he’s okay even if you can’t cook, then there is a chef who is cooking for him and enjoying all the fruits inclusive…lol!!!. If you’re a woman who cannot cook, there’s a high tendency he will cheat on you just to have a good taste elsewhere.
A man will like to always come home to a sumptuous meal not to always eat at the restaurant.
Women With Low Libido
If you’re the kind of woman who always refuses him s ex when he initiates it, then be ready to face it, he will cheat on you. If he keeps coming and you keep rejecting him, he will surely be highly pressed and be forced to jump into the hands of another lady
Unkempt Or Dirty Women
We are not saying you should be a model to please him, but at least, you should always look presentable not dirty and unkempt all the time. When you keep doing that, you become less appealing to him and when he steps out and sees other women who are well dressed and appealing, he’s definitely going to succumb.
Even if you’re home, it’s advisable you shower and wear something decent even if you’re stepping into the kitchen. The fact that you’re home doesn’t mean you should be in rags, because you don’t know when he will step home with his friends and so it’s good you dress nicely even if you don’t have anywhere to go.
But if you’re the type who always has some pieces of clothe always hanging on you, all in the name of, “I’m home” you might lose him to another woman or he’s likely to cheat
Busy Body (Too Many Friends)
Though men appear not to be emotional, but we are equally emotional and want some attention from time to time too and so if you’re the kind of woman who is always roaming about from one friend to another, always busy but yields no profit, another woman probably one out of the many you bring home will steal your man’s number, seduce him, frame you up and be available to warm his bed.
Tom Boy Woman
There’s a very good reason why God created men as they are and women as they are, but if you’re the type who is always dressed like a man, then you should know you’re hiding some s exual appealing features from your man and so if he chances upon a woman who wriggles in all her feminine glamour, then you should be ready to face the gun. She’s definitely going to tickle some sensitive nodes in there and he’s likely to cheat on you.
Learn to dress in such a way that, your man will see you as a female, showing all the feminine features that makes him tickle inside but wearing unappealing clothes are likely to put him off and he will go “hunting”
Women With Va ginal Or Body Odor
If you’re unlucky to have this condition and lucky to have a boyfriend or husband, then we advice you get treatment fast and quick. If you still have it and it has gotten to the point of “husband and wife”, then count yourself very lucky but do not rest on your oars, because he might love you but will cheat just to get some breathing space.
If you stink down there or on your body, then you should know it will be easy for a woman who smells good to snatch your man because men love women who smell good. So if you have this problem, the likelihood he will cheat on you is very high.
A Radical Workaholic Feminist
The moment you begin to contest the place of your husband in a marriage, The moment your career becomes a priority, The moment your bank job makes you work Saturdays and Sundays, Chances are high that You have lost him or on the path of losing him. A man must be allowed headship of his home, Money or no money. Rich or poor, Educated or Not educated. you must allow him his place and respect him as your husband. Your home should be a non negotiable priority no matter how much you are making from your place of work. If you force a man into feeling uncomfortable, Feeling lesser than a man and getting lonely because you have a tight schedule around you then you may learn the hard way because there is always a Calabar woman around who will willingly help you keep him very well. This Calabar woman may even be an ordinary maid. Beware and good bye
Many women actually believe every man cheats and so have come to the conclusion that, “All men are the same,” but it’s not every man that cheats, there are some men who are just not into the habit of cheating but some women actually push them into it with...
Unfortunately, as human as we are, nobody wishes to accept blame and so we find women on all platforms trying to make the whole world believe that men are natural cheats but never mention what they do that makes men cheat. They are always the perfect side, “men are just not satisfied and that’s why they cheat” is the phrase that comes from women all the time.
Women need to know among them, those who men are likely to cheat on based on their character or behaviour, so we compiled a list of types of women that men are likely to cheat on and here are 10 of them.
Disrespectful Women
Men naturally have ego problems (Yes! We accept that) and if you’re the kind of woman who is really disrespectful, it insults a man’s ego and so if he finds a woman who worships and gives him that maximum respect, we are sorry to say, he’s going to move with her.
Your man may love you deeply, but if you don’t respect him as a man and always treat him as trash, he’s likely to cheat on you. This includes women who always want a man to know she knows her right and wants the man to bow to her and also insults and speaks trash to him in public. If it goes on for a long time, he might not say a word, but he will definitely find a woman who treats him like a King and drop you like hot coal.
Nagging Women
Every woman nags but there are some women who are just outrageous, totally out of this world and can even make a man go crazy. They nag so much they can even follow you to your work place to continue with it.
If you know you are that type of woman, then at one point in time, he’s likely to cheat on you. Usually, when a woman nags to the point where her man finds it uncontrollable, he tries to find a place where he can have his peace of mind and so when the opportunity presents itself, he’s definitely going to give it a nod.
Overly Jealous Women
It’s normal to be jealous over the person you love, for even the God we serve is a jealous God, so this means jealousy is part of us. But though we have God, there are still smaller gods around, we don’t see God with all His might sending down fire and brimstone on all the other gods to burn them into ashes.
Some women are just too jealous and will go about fighting any woman who gets close to their boyfriend or husband. They even sometimes end up fighting the man’s sister or mother, they ruin everything for the man, both at home and at work. There’s no peace of mind in the house.
With such women, what happens is that, you usually find them sneaking into the man’s phone, trousers, shoes, etc. searching for evidence that do not exist. If you know you are a woman who is into such behaviour, then you should know you’re calling more harm unto yourself than good. When you keep doing that and the man is the type who doesn’t cheat or hasn’t cheated yet, what happens is, he will decide to cheat to fulfill your wish and constant accusations. It’s like calling an innocent person a criminal, it gets to a point, they really commit the crime.
Bad Cook
There’s a saying that, “The way to man’s heart is through his stomach” and trust us, a woman who is a good cook always has an upper hand. To some extent, this saying is true because if you know how to cook good food, it brings respect to himself and his friends and relatives especially in our African setting.
If he tells you he’s okay even if you can’t cook, then there is a chef who is cooking for him and enjoying all the fruits inclusive…lol!!!. If you’re a woman who cannot cook, there’s a high tendency he will cheat on you just to have a good taste elsewhere.
A man will like to always come home to a sumptuous meal not to always eat at the restaurant.
Women With Low Libido
If you’re the kind of woman who always refuses him s ex when he initiates it, then be ready to face it, he will cheat on you. If he keeps coming and you keep rejecting him, he will surely be highly pressed and be forced to jump into the hands of another lady
Unkempt Or Dirty Women
We are not saying you should be a model to please him, but at least, you should always look presentable not dirty and unkempt all the time. When you keep doing that, you become less appealing to him and when he steps out and sees other women who are well dressed and appealing, he’s definitely going to succumb.
Even if you’re home, it’s advisable you shower and wear something decent even if you’re stepping into the kitchen. The fact that you’re home doesn’t mean you should be in rags, because you don’t know when he will step home with his friends and so it’s good you dress nicely even if you don’t have anywhere to go.
But if you’re the type who always has some pieces of clothe always hanging on you, all in the name of, “I’m home” you might lose him to another woman or he’s likely to cheat
Busy Body (Too Many Friends)
Though men appear not to be emotional, but we are equally emotional and want some attention from time to time too and so if you’re the kind of woman who is always roaming about from one friend to another, always busy but yields no profit, another woman probably one out of the many you bring home will steal your man’s number, seduce him, frame you up and be available to warm his bed.
Tom Boy Woman
There’s a very good reason why God created men as they are and women as they are, but if you’re the type who is always dressed like a man, then you should know you’re hiding some s exual appealing features from your man and so if he chances upon a woman who wriggles in all her feminine glamour, then you should be ready to face the gun. She’s definitely going to tickle some sensitive nodes in there and he’s likely to cheat on you.
Learn to dress in such a way that, your man will see you as a female, showing all the feminine features that makes him tickle inside but wearing unappealing clothes are likely to put him off and he will go “hunting”
Women With Va ginal Or Body Odor
If you’re unlucky to have this condition and lucky to have a boyfriend or husband, then we advice you get treatment fast and quick. If you still have it and it has gotten to the point of “husband and wife”, then count yourself very lucky but do not rest on your oars, because he might love you but will cheat just to get some breathing space.
If you stink down there or on your body, then you should know it will be easy for a woman who smells good to snatch your man because men love women who smell good. So if you have this problem, the likelihood he will cheat on you is very high.
A Radical Workaholic Feminist
The moment you begin to contest the place of your husband in a marriage, The moment your career becomes a priority, The moment your bank job makes you work Saturdays and Sundays, Chances are high that You have lost him or on the path of losing him. A man must be allowed headship of his home, Money or no money. Rich or poor, Educated or Not educated. you must allow him his place and respect him as your husband. Your home should be a non negotiable priority no matter how much you are making from your place of work. If you force a man into feeling uncomfortable, Feeling lesser than a man and getting lonely because you have a tight schedule around you then you may learn the hard way because there is always a Calabar woman around who will willingly help you keep him very well. This Calabar woman may even be an ordinary maid. Beware and good bye
Many women actually believe every man cheats and so have come to the conclusion that, “All men are the same,” but it’s not every man that cheats, there are some men who are just not into the habit of cheating but some women actually push them into it with...
FOR GUYS: HOW TO TELL WHEN A W0MAN JUST HAD S3X
In a European study, trained s£xologists (nice job title) were able to pick out, with an 81 percent accuracy, which women had an org asm just by watching them walk.
But that’s not the only way someone can tell if a woman has had s£x. Here are a few others:
The Glow: There’s a scientific reason for us getting the flushed in the cheeks look after s£x — more blood flow — but what about that aura of calm that seems to float around us after the fact? It happens. Recently, my husband and I went on a post-co’ital grocery store trip and ran in to some friends. The wife remarked to me, “You’re glowing,” with a little wink and a nod.
The Cat Who Ate The Canary Grin: This is also known as the Smir ‘king Smile and if you see a woman looking sideways with this look on her face, you’ll know, yep, she just got laid. She has a secret that’s making her go through her day with a sense of fulfillment. Because, seriously, nobody is that happy unless they just had s£x with a happy ending.
The Wet Spot: I know this is gross but getting sem’inal moi’sture leaking through to your pa nts can be an unfortunate byproduct of having s e’x, at least if you don’t use a con dom or your partner doesn’t pull out. And it’s not one of the good ways you would want someone to be able to tell that you recently had s£x. Wearing a pad post-inter’course can help prevent this — just sayin’.
The Unfla ‘ppably Buoyant Mood: A post-intercourse rise in endo’rphins can give you a fresh perspective on the annoy’ances of every day life: Go ahead, honk at me because I’m going too slow. Cut in front of me in the check-out line at the store. And let my kids scream at each other while they argue over who gets to sit in the front seat on the way to school. I. Don’t. Care. Thanks to a little early morning sunrise surprise, nothing is going to put me in a bad mood.
But that’s not the only way someone can tell if a woman has had s£x. Here are a few others:
The Glow: There’s a scientific reason for us getting the flushed in the cheeks look after s£x — more blood flow — but what about that aura of calm that seems to float around us after the fact? It happens. Recently, my husband and I went on a post-co’ital grocery store trip and ran in to some friends. The wife remarked to me, “You’re glowing,” with a little wink and a nod.
The Cat Who Ate The Canary Grin: This is also known as the Smir ‘king Smile and if you see a woman looking sideways with this look on her face, you’ll know, yep, she just got laid. She has a secret that’s making her go through her day with a sense of fulfillment. Because, seriously, nobody is that happy unless they just had s£x with a happy ending.
The Wet Spot: I know this is gross but getting sem’inal moi’sture leaking through to your pa nts can be an unfortunate byproduct of having s e’x, at least if you don’t use a con dom or your partner doesn’t pull out. And it’s not one of the good ways you would want someone to be able to tell that you recently had s£x. Wearing a pad post-inter’course can help prevent this — just sayin’.
The Unfla ‘ppably Buoyant Mood: A post-intercourse rise in endo’rphins can give you a fresh perspective on the annoy’ances of every day life: Go ahead, honk at me because I’m going too slow. Cut in front of me in the check-out line at the store. And let my kids scream at each other while they argue over who gets to sit in the front seat on the way to school. I. Don’t. Care. Thanks to a little early morning sunrise surprise, nothing is going to put me in a bad mood.
Monday, 3 August 2015
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