Friday 30 August 2013

Panama says Cuban weapons shipment violates U.N. arms embargo

Cuban weapons found in July aboard a North Korean ship trying to cross the Panama Canal violated United Nations weapons sanctions, Panamanian officials said, citing an unpublished U.N. report on the incident.
Cuban officials said Thursday that they had no comment on the Panamanian allegations.
In July, Cuba's foreign ministry issued a statement that said the undeclared shipment discovered aboard the ship consisted of obsolete weapons being sent to North Korea for repairs before being returned to Cuba.
But Panamanian officials have said that under 10,000 tons of Cuban sugar, they found operational weaponry, including MiG fighter jets, anti-aircraft systems and explosives.
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"The Cuban weapons on the North Korean ship undeniably violated the U.N. weapons embargo," said a statement issued Wednesday by Panama's Ministry of Public Security, citing a preliminary report by U.N. weapons inspectors who inspected the ship.
Despite Cuba's assertions that the weapons were being sent for repairs, the shipment may have been intended to bolster North Korea's own defenses.
"North Korea is very interested in maintaining its MiG-21 fleet," said James Hardy, Asia-Pacific editor for Jane's Defence Weekly. "It may be a 50-year-old plane, but it's very fast and capable in a dogfight."
Still, Hardy said, if the shipment was part of an illegal arms deal, it remains to be seen what further sanctions Cuba or North Korea could face.
"The U.N. sanctions are very strict," he said. "But the consequences are not clear."
While authorities have not said what will become of the Cuban weapons, the North Korean crew may finally be heading home.
Panamanian authorities met Wednesday with North Korean diplomats and said they agreed to begin the process of repatriating the 35-member North Korean crew, who have been held in Panama after initially trying to prevent authorities from searching the ship.
That ship, the Chong Chon Gang, could also be returned to North Korea after repairs are made. According to the Panamanian statement, the crew rendered the ship inoperable during the struggle to keep customs authorities from boarding it.
Although secret shipments of arms between North Korea and Cuba were not previously well-known, they apparently have taken place for decades.
In July, former President Fidel Castro wrote that in the 1980s, North Korea sent Cuba 100,000 AK-47 rifles after the Soviet Union denied the island military aid that could be used to repel a feared U.S. invasion.
"They did not charge us a cent," Castro wrote of the North Korean shipments.

Syria allies: Why Russia, Iran and China are standing by the regime

Allegations of a chemical weapons attack carried out by the Syrian regime last week have heightened tensions internationally. There's been tough talk from Western leaders and a flurry of activity by the United States -- all of which seem to suggest that a military strike against the regime could be in the offing.
But through it all, Syria seems to retain the support of some good friends.
Why do Russia, Iran and China continue to support a regime that's accused of slaughtering tens of thousands of civilians in the 2-year-old civil war?
Here's why.
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RUSSIA
Why it cares:
Two main reasons: One has to do with economics; the other with ideology.
a) Economics: Russia is one of Syria's biggest arms suppliers.
Syrian contracts with the Russian defense industry have likely exceeded $4 billion, according to Jeffrey Mankoff, an adjunct fellow with the Center for Strategic and International Studies Russia and Eurasia Program.
He noted the Stockholm International Peace Research Institute estimated the value of Russian arms sales to Syria at $162 million per year in both 2009 and 2010.
Moscow also signed a $550 million deal with Syria for combat training jets.
Russia also leases a naval facility at the Syrian port of Tartus, giving the Russian navy its only direct access to the Mediterranean, Mankoff said.
b) Ideology: Russia's key policy goal is blocking American efforts to shape the region.
Russia doesn't believe revolutions, wars and regime change bring stability and democracy. It often points to the Arab Spring and the U.S.-led war in Iraq as evidence.
Russia also doesn't trust U.S. intentions in the region. It believes humanitarian concerns are often used an excuse for pursuing America's own political and economic interests.
"Russia's backing of (Syrian President Bashar) al-Assad is not only driven by the need to preserve its naval presence in the Mediterranean, secure its energy contracts, or counter the West on 'regime change,'" said Anna Neistat, an associate program director at Human Rights Watch.
"It also stems from (Russian President Vladimir) Putin's existential fear for his own survival and the survival of the repressive system that he and al-Assad represent. In Putin's universe, al-Assad cannot lose because it means that one day he, Putin, might as well."
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What it's saying:
Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov insists there's no proof yet Syria's government is behind the chemical weapons attack. And any plans to strike Syria would challenge provisions of the U.N. charter, the ministry said.
The ministry accused Washington of trying to "create artificial groundless excuses for military intervention."
On Wednesday, Russia walked out of a U.N. Security Council meeting where Britain was expected to pursue a resolution to authorize the use of force against Syria.
"The West handles the Islamic world the way a monkey handles a grenade," Russian Deputy Prime Minister Dmitry Rogozin tweeted.
Why it matters:
Russia is a permanent member of the U.N. Security Council. It has the power to veto Security Council resolutions against the Syrian regime and has done so repeatedly over the past two years. So, if the United States and its allies are relying on a U.N. mandate to greenlight a military strike, they may be waiting a long time.
IRAN
Why it cares:
Iran and Syria are bound by two factors: religion and strategy.
a) Religion: Iran is the world's most populous Shiite Muslim nation. The Syrian government is dominated by Alawites, a Shiite offshoot, and the rebels are dominated by Sunnis.
That connection has bound them for quite a while. Iran counted on Syria as its only Arab ally during its eight-year war with Iraq. Iraq was Sunni-dominated.
The last thing Iran wants now is a Sunni-dominated Syria -- especially as the rebels' main supporters are Iran's Persian Gulf rivals: Qatar and Saudi Arabia.
b) Strategy: For Iran, Syria is also a strategically key ally. It's Iran's main conduit to the Shiite militia Hezbollah in Lebanon, the proxy through which Iran can threaten Israel with an arsenal of short-range missiles.
In 2009, the top U.S. diplomat in Damascus disclosed that Syria had begun delivery of ballistic missiles to Hezbollah, according to official cables leaked to and published by WikiLeaks.
So, it's in Iran's interest to see al-Assad's regime remain intact.
Western intelligence officials believe the Islamic Republic has provided technical help such as intelligence, communications and advice on crowd control and weapons as protests in Syria morphed into resistance.
A U.N. panel reported in May that Iranian weapons destined for Syria but seized in Turkey included assault rifles, explosives, detonators, machine guns and mortar shells.
Ayham Kamel of Eurasia Group believes the Iranians must be alarmed that the tide is turning against al-Assad.
"Iran probably has excellent information regarding Assad's position. That information would make clear that Iran is increasingly likely to lose its only ally in the region, greatly reducing its strategic reach," he said.
What's it saying:
Iran has cast events in Syria as part of a much broader ideological battle. It's a "war between the front of hegemony and the front of resistance," Supreme Leader Ayatollah Ali Khamenei has said.
Iran's position, as outlined by Foreign Minister Javad Zarif and new President Hassan Rouhani, is that the Syrian government is a victim of international plots.
Iran believes the West and almost all Arab countries are in cahoots in an effort to implement regime change in Syria. Iran says the main objective of this plot is to make the region safer for Israel.
This week, Zarif warned of "graver conditions" in Syria is attacked.
"If any country attacks another when it wants, that is like the Middle Ages," Zarif said Wednesday.
Why it matters:
Many believe Iran is Washington's greatest threat in the region, especially with its nuclear potential. It's unclear how Iran might respond if Syria is attacked. But the rhetoric certainly has been ominous.
"Starting this fire will be like a spark in a large store of gunpowder, with unclear and unspecified outcomes and consequences," Khamenei told Iranian Cabinet members this week.
"The U.S. threats and possible intervention in Syria is a disaster for the region and if such an act is done, certainly, the Americans will sustain damage like when they interfered in Iraq and Afghanistan."
CHINA
Why it cares:
China's relationship with Syria is more nuanced.
Some say it wants to maintain its financial ties. It was ranked as Syria's third-largest importer in 2010, according to data from the European Commission.
"Beijing's renewed interest in Damascus -- the traditional terminus node of the ancient Silk Road ... indicates that China sees Syria as an important trading hub," according to a 2010 report from The Jamestown Foundation, a Washington-based research and analysis institute.
But there's a bigger factor at play.
China has said foreign countries shouldn't meddle in Syria's internal affairs -- and perhaps for good reason. China has had its own share of international controversies over its policies with Tibet as well as allegations of human rights violations.
Finally, China doesn't want to reprise what happened with Libya.
It abstained from a U.N. Security Council resolution on that one, clearing the way for a NATO military intervention in Libya.
"It was rather disappointed with the payoff," said Yun Sun of the Brookings Institution, writing in the East-West Center's Asia Pacific Bulletin. "Neither the West nor the NTC (Libyan National Transitional Council) showed much appreciation for China's abstention."
So, he says, China has "formulated a far more sophisticated hedging strategy" when it comes to Syria.
"Rather than siding with either Assad or the opposition and standing aside to 'wait and see,' Beijing is actively betting on both."
What's it saying:
China said it is firmly opposed to the use of chemical weapons and supports the U.N.'s chemical weapons inspectors.
It also said it wants a political solution for Syria -- though some say hopes for such an ending have waned.
"A political solution is always the only realistic means to resolve the Syria issue," Foreign Minister Wang Yi said.
Like Russia, China also walked out of Wednesday's U.N. Security Council meeting where Britain planned to pursue a resolution on Syria.
Why it matters:
China is a permanent member of the U.N. Security Council. And like Russia, China has repeatedly blocked sanctions attempts against the Syrian regime -- leading to a perpetual stalemate at the U.N. body to take any serious action on Syria.

UK, U.N. and U.S. get jitters over intervention in Syria

Going it alone against the Syrian government is not what President Barack Obama wants, U.S. Secretary of Defense Chuck Hagel said Friday.
But that scenario is looking more and more likely.
A day earlier, the United States' closest ally, Great Britain, backed out of a possible coalition. A U.N. Security Council meeting on Syria ended in deadlock, and in the U.S. Congress, doubts about military intervention are making the rounds.
Skeptics of military action are invoking Iraq, where the United States government under President George W. Bush marched to war based on a thin claim that former dictator Saddam Hussein was harboring weapons of mass destruction.
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Opponents are conjuring up a possible repeat of that scenario in Syria, though the intelligence being gathered on the use of WMDs in Syria may be sounder.
An attack on President Bashar al-Assad may prove to be politically unpopular. The American public is not enthused by the prospect.
"Only 25% of the American people support military action in Syria," former U.S. ambassador to the United Nations Bill Richardson told CNN's Piers Morgan Thursday.
Convincing evidence
To shake off the specter of the Iraq war, the public needs convincing that chemical weapons were used and that al-Assad's regime was behind it.
"You have to have almost incontrovertible proof," Richardson said.
It's there, said Arizona Sen. John McCain, and will be visible soon. He thinks comparisons with Iraq are overblown and that doubts are unfounded.
"Come on. Does anybody really believe that those aren't chemical weapons -- those bodies of those children stacked up?" he asked Morgan.
Al-Assad's government has claimed that jihadists fighting with the opposition carried out the chemical weapons attacks on August 21 to turn global sentiments against it.
McCain doesn't buy it.
"The rebels don't have those weapons," he said.
The president also needs to assure Congress that a possible intervention would not get out of hand, said Democratic Rep. Chris Van Hollen from Maryland.
"The action has to have a very limited purpose, and the purpose is to deter future use of chemical weapons," he said.
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After British lawmakers on Thursday voted down a proposal on military intervention, a senior U.S. official, speaking on condition of anonymity, told CNN that going it alone was a real prospect.
"We care what they think. We value the process. But we're going to make the decision we need to make," the official said.
A former director of the CIA believes Obama would face off with al-Assad alone.
"I can't conceive he would back down from a very serious course of action," retired Gen. Michael Hayden told CNN's Wolf Blitzer.
Hagel's response to the vote was more diplomatic.
The United States respects the results, Hagel told journalists in Manila, the Philippines. "Every nation has a responsibility to make their own decisions."
The U.S. will continue to consult with the British government and still hope for "international collaboration."
"Our approach is to continue to find an international coalition that will act together," he said.
Haunted by Iraq
The parliamentarians in London shot down the proposal in spite of intelligence allegedly incriminating the government of President Bashar al-Assad.
Britain's Joint Intelligence Committee has concluded it was "highly likely" that Syrian government forces used poison gas outside Damascus last week in an attack that killed at least 350 people, according to a summary of the committee's findings released Thursday.
"There is no credible intelligence or other evidence to substantiate the claims or the possession of CW (chemical weapons) by the opposition," Britain's Joint Intelligence Committee concluded in a document released Thursday. "The JIC has therefore concluded that there are no plausible alternative scenarios to regime responsibility."
A yes vote would not have sent the UK straight into a deployment.
Cameron had said his government would not act without first hearing from the U.N. inspectors and giving Parliament another chance to vote on military action.
But his opposition seemed reminded of the Iraq war.
"I think today the House of Commons spoke for the British people who said they didn't want a rush to war, and I was determined we learned the lessons of Iraq, and I'm glad we've made the prime minister see sense this evening," Labour Party leader Ed Miliband told the Press Association.
The no vote came after a long day of debate, and it appeared to catch Cameron and his supporters by surprise.
For days, the prime minister has been sounding a call for action, lending support to talk of a U.S.- or Western-led strike against Syria.
"I strongly believe in the need for a tough response to the use of chemical weapons, but I also believe in respecting the will of this House of Commons," the prime minister said.
"I get that, and the government will act accordingly," he said.
The government of France supports military intervention, if evidence incriminates the government of using poison gas against civilians.
But on Friday, President Francois Hollande told French newspaper Le Monde that intervention should be limited and not include al-Assad's overthrow.
Letter from al-Assad
Before the vote, Syria's government offered its own arguments against such an intervention. In an open letter to British lawmakers, the speaker of Syria's parliament riffed on British literary hero William Shakespeare, saying: "If you bomb us, shall we not bleed?"
But the letter also invoked Iraq, a conflict justified on the grounds that Iraq had amassed stockpiles of chemical and biological weapons and was working toward a nuclear bomb -- claims that were discovered to have been false after the 2003 invasion.
"Those who want to send others to fight will talk in the Commons of the casualties in the Syrian conflict. But before you rush over the cliffs of war, would it not be wise to pause? Remember the thousands of British soldiers killed and maimed in Afghanistan and Iraq, not to mention the hundreds of thousands of Iraqi dead, both in the war and in the continuing chaos."
British Commons Speaker John Bercow published the letter.
UN deadlock
Lack of support for military intervention at the United Nations on Thursday was less of a surprise.
Russia, which holds a permanent seat on the Security Council, is one of Syria's closest allies and is most certain to veto any resolution against al-Assad's government that involves military action.
Moscow reiterated the stance Friday.
"Russia is against any resolution of the UN Security Council, which may contain an option for use of force," Deputy Foreign Minister Gennady Gatilov said on Friday.
A closed-door Security Council meeting called by Russia ended with no agreement on a resolution to address the growing crisis in Syria, a Western diplomat told CNN's Nick Paton Walsh on condition of anonymity.
U.N. weapons inspectors are now in Syria trying to confirm the use of chemical weapons. The inspectors are expected to leave the country by Saturday morning.
They are to brief U.N. Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon, who in turn, will swiftly brief the Security Council on the findings.
Congressional jitters
The president is facing doubts at home as well: More than 160 members of Congress, including 63 Democrats, have now signed letters calling for either a vote or at least a "full debate" before any U.S. action.
The author of one of those letters, Democratic Rep. Barbara Lee of California, said Obama should seek "an affirmative decision of Congress" before committing American forces.
More than 90 members of Congress, most of them Republican, signed another letter by GOP Rep. Scott Rigell of Virginia. That letter urged Obama "to consult and receive authorization" before authorizing any such military action.
Congress is currently in recess until September 9.
White House spokesman Josh Earnest said Obama was still weighing a potential response to the chemical weapons attacks.
The president has said that he is not considering a no-fly zone and has ruled out U.S. boots on the ground in Syria.
Al-Assad has vowed to defend his country against any outside attack.

Thursday 29 August 2013

Russia to send ships to eastern Mediterranean as US mulls Syria strike

Interfax news agency: two ships will be sent reportedly to strengthen naval presence in light of Syria crisis
Russia will send two ships to the east Mediterranean to strengthen its naval presence because of the "well-known situation" there, Interfax news agency said on Thursday referring to the Syria crisis, as the West prepares for possible military strikes and Russian citizens were evacuated from Syria.
"A large anti-submarine ship of the Northern Fleet will join [existing naval forces] over the next few days," a source in the Russian General Staff told Interfax.
The agency quoted a source in the armed forces' general staff as saying an anti-submarine vessel and a missile cruiser would be sent in the coming days because the situation "required us to make some adjustments" in the naval force.
In June, Russia's Navy Commander Adm. Viktor Chirkov announced that the missile cruiser, The Admiral Kuznetsov -- Russia's only missile cruiser -- would be deployed to the Mediterranean by the end of 2013. The latest report on Thursday seemed to push up that timeline. The Defense Ministry was not immediately available for comment.
State-run RIA Novosti news agency cited a high-ranking representative of the naval command who said the changes to the country's forces in the region were not linked to the current tensions over Syria and called them "a planned rotation."
Meanwhile, a group of 27 Russians, mostly women and children, was picked up on Wednesday from Latakia, Syria, the Moscow Times reported. On Tuesday, a plane brought 75 Russians in Syria back to Moscow.
U.S. President Barack Obama said Wednesday that he is certain that a chemical-weapons attack by the regime of Syria's President Bashar al-Assad caused the deaths of hundreds of civilians on the outskirts of Damascus last week, and warned that "international consequences" were required for such an act.
Russia, President Bashar al-Assad's main international ally, says it opposes any military intervention in Syria and that it has no plans to be drawn into any conflict. It says there is no proof that Assad's forces carried out the attack.

Muslims decry NYPD spying tactics

Community  leaders denounce mosque surveillance program newly uncovered by APCommunity leaders denounce mosque surveillance program newly uncovered by AP

Muslim civic groups condemned the New York Police Department’s (NYPD) surveillance program of city mosques and Muslim community organizations, Wednesday, and called for a federal investigation into the force’s policies after a report by The Associated Press revealed that it had secretly designated mosques as terrorist organizations.
At a press conference held outside police headquarters, representatives from the groups compared the NYPD’s targeting of Muslims to the city’s controversial stop-and-frisk policy, a police tactic that a federal judge and the city council struck down earlier this month for unfairly targeting black and Hispanic men.
Dr. Ahmad Jaber, president of the Arab American Association of New York, announced that he would be resigning his role as an advisor to the NYPD’s Muslim Advisory Council.
"When I hear about these things I feel betrayed, I feel stabbed in the back," Jaber told Al Jazeera, adding that he didn’t understand why immigrants who want to learn English or become citizens were considered legitimate targets for investigation by the NYPD.
"I would say I’m more disappointed than angry, but I’m not surprised," said Mariam Luqman, 23, from nearby Yonkers and a student in the city.
"There’ve been so much programs and talking but there’s been really no action on the NYPD part besides the spying," she added. "So I think that they really need to relook at what the purpose of this really is and be honest about it, because if it was really to protect the community then why would it they attack people in the community they’re trying to protect."
The NYPD’s classification of mosques as terrorist organizations allows it to employ informants, secretly record sermons and spy on religious leaders without clear evidence of criminal behavior, said the AP report.
Mohammed Shah Jahan, a community organizer and senior systems analyst at the New York Stock Exchange, said: "We are fighting right now [to learn] English, for jobs but they are spying on us. Of course we feel bad."
Lawyer and activist Lamis Deek, a board member of the Council on American Islamic Relations, denounced the NYPD’s spying program, comparing it with stop-and-frisk and calling for the federal government to intervene over the matter.
"We demand that the Department of Justice dispatch immediately a monitor to investigate what is happening and we demand full accounting for all of these crimes committed against the vast majority of the people of New York," she said Wednesday’s press conference.
New York Police Commissioner Ray Kelly, who has defended both stop-and-frisk and surveillance programs on Muslims as legal and necessary measures, has been mentioned in news reports as a possible nominee for Secretary of the Department of Homeland Security. Deek said he should be out of the running.
"We also demand that Kelly’s name be removed from consideration," Deek told Al Jazeera.
Kelly responded to AP’s report on MSNBC’s Morning Joe program, Wednesday, describing it as "fiction."
"I haven’t seen the story, but they’re hyping a book that’s coming out next week," Kelly said, referring to a forthcoming book by AP reporters Adam Goldman and Matt Appuzzo, who broke the story on the NYPD’s Muslim-community surveillance programs.
"If it’s a reflection of the article, then the book will be a fair amount of fiction, it will be half-truths, it will be lots of quotes from unnamed sources," he added. "Our sin is to have the temerity and hutzpah to go into the federal government’s territory to go into counterterrorism and trying to protect this city by supplementing what the federal government has done."

North Korea leader Kim Jong-un's ex-girlfriend ‘executed by firing squad for appearing in porn films’

Reports indicate the dictator had been to see his former lover sing in a concert just nine days before she was arrested and killed

Kim Jong-un’s ex-girlfriend has been executed by firing squad along with a dozen fellow North Korean musicians charged with violating laws against pornography, according to reports in a respected South Korean newspaper.

The Chosun Ilbo said performers from a well-known orchestra and light music ensemble were arrested on 17 August, accused of filming themselves having sex and then selling copies of the tapes.
While this breached North Korean anti-pornography laws, some of the musicians were also found to have Bibles in their possession and all were treated as political dissidents, according to the newspaper’s unnamed source.
They were executed in public by machine gun fire three days later, reportedly as the rest of the Unhasu Orchestra and Wangjaesan Light Music Band were forced to watch.
In accordance with the country’s rules on guilt by association, their families were then taken away to detention camps, according to the reports.
Among those killed was said to be singer Hyon Song-wol, who reached an international audience when she won a Hungarian competition in 2005 and released the hit single “A Girl In The Saddle Of A Steed” – often mistranslated as “Excellent Horse-Like Lady”.
North Korean leader Kim Jong-un met Ms Hyon a decade ago, and they were reported to have been in a relationship until Kim’s father Kim Jong-il said he disapproved.
The South Korean reports included images showing the dictator attending a concert given by Ms Hyon and the groups on 8 August in Pyongyang, and there have been rumours that the couple continued their affair after both married other people.
The paper said Kim's current wife Ri Sol-ju was also a member of the Unhasu Orchestra before she married him. It said: “Whether she had any hand in the executions is unclear.”
Quotations from another source, again unnamed, indicated that the executions on 20 August were in keeping with the dictator’s recent activities, and “show that he is fixated on consolidating his leadership”. The source said: “Kim Jong-un has been viciously eliminating anyone who he deems a challenge to his authority.”
While it is often impossible to verify reports coming out of the closed-off communist state, an authority on North Korean affairs and professor at Tokyo’s Waseda University told the Daily Telegraph there seemed to be “a political reason” behind the killings.
Toshimitsu Shigemura told the paper: “If these people had only made pornographic videos, then it is simply not believable that their punishment was execution.
“They could have been made to disappear into the prison system there instead.
“There is a political reason behind this. Or, as Kim's wife once belonged to the same group, it is possible that these executions are more about Kim's wife,” he said.

 

UK says legally entitled to take action in Syria without UN approval

UK says evidence shows it is 'highly likely' Syrian government carried out alleged chemical weapons attack last week

The U.K government said Thursday that it is legally entitled to take military action against Syria even if the U.N Security Council blocked such action.
The statement came shortly after the U.K's intelligence committee said it had confirmed that a chemical attack took place in Syria last week, and that there is "some" intelligence to suggest that the Syrian government was behind the alleged attack.
The U.N. chemical weapons experts will wrap up their investigation Friday and leave Syria Saturday, United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon said Thursday.
The U.N.'s team of experts is not mandated to conclude who perpetrated the alleged attack, just if it occurred.
British Prime Minister David Cameron has said he will wait for the U.N. report before taking military action against the regime of Syrian President Bashar al-Assad, but a U.K.-drafted resolution authorizing intervention against Assad to protect Syrian civilians is almost certain to be vetoed by Russia, Syria's staunchest ally in the Security Council.

Russia, along with China, has vetoed three resolutions on Syria in the last two years.

President Barack Obama, in an interview with "PBS NewsHour" that aired Wednesday evening, emphasized that he has not yet made a decision on military action in Syria, but said he is "certain" that Assad's government is responsible.
On Thursday, the office of German Chancellor Angela Merkel released a statement that Germany and French President Francois Hollande have agreed there must be a reaction to the suspected Syrian gas attack, and that they hope for a prompt report from the U.N.

Tension is heightening between the Western countries pushing for intervention, and Russia and China, who are opposed to any military action.

On Thursday, Russia's Interfax news agency said Moscow will send two ships to the East Mediterranean to strengthen its naval presence because of the "well-known situation" there, referring to the Syrian crisis.
The agency quoted a source in the armed forces' general staff as saying an anti-submarine vessel and a missile cruiser would be sent in the coming days because the situation "required us to make some adjustments" in the naval force.
Russia also began evacuated its citizens from Syria.
China's foreign minister, meanwhile, urged restraint Wednesday night, saying any military intervention in the crisis would only worsen turmoil in the Middle East.
Whether or not the U.S. and its allies take military action in the coming days or weeks, Obama made clear that such action would not be designed to bring an end to a civil war that has already claimed more than 100,000 lives. Its primary purpose would be to see that no more are killed by poison gas.

Former UN weapons inspector: West has 'no authority' in Syria

Amb. Richard Butler, an Australian national and expert in nuclear disarmament, was the chief U.N. weapons inspector in Iraq during the 1990s. He also served as deputy representative at the International Atomic Energy Agency (IAEA), chairman of the Canberra Commission on the Elimination of Nuclear Weapons and executive chairman of the U.N. Special Commission to Disarm Iraq (UNSCOM).
Butler spoke with Al Jazeera about the suspected chemical weapons attack near Damascus last week that left hundreds dead. Both the Syrian opposition and President Bashar al-Assad have denied responsibility for the attack, which crossed what President Barack Obama has called a "red line" that would necessitate a direct response from the U.S. The U.N. on Monday sent its weapons inspectors to examine the site of the alleged attack in Damascus, about which Butler is uniquely qualified to comment.
These interview highlights were edited for length.
Butler on whether U.N. weapons inspectors will be able to produce a comprehensive report on the suspected chemical weapons attack in Damascus:
"It will be difficult, because they were kept away from the site for five days. … And the chemicals involved degrade fairly rapidly … although they leave traces of having been there … but those five days make it difficult.
"Secondly, they would best have tissue samples … and the reports are Syrian authorities would not let them exhume bodies. … They were only allowed to take away limited quantities of blood and urine, so I’m a little bit pessimistic about the possibility the U.N. team will be able to bring back as detailed and as exclusive a report as we would have hoped.
"I know the leader of the team very well, and we worked together in the past. The inspectors who were there in Iraq with me were men and women of extraordinary ability and integrity … but no matter how good they are, they need proper access in a timely fashion, and I think they have been denied of that, so I am not terribly optimistic that the report will be as comprehensive as we would like it to be."
On determining responsibility for the alleged chemical attacks:
 "The first question that needs to be answered is whether those pictures and the numbers of those dead and injured, as presented by Doctors Without Borders and other groups, were those numbers as a result of the use of chemical weapons?
"There seems to be a widespread consensus available now even before the U.N. reports come back. The pictures seem very clear that chemical weapons do certainly appeared to have been used.
"But the second question … is that of provenance. Where do they come from, and who authorized or directed they be used? And in my mind now, that now has become the crucial question in determining what action should be taken, if the global norm against any use of chemical weapons has been violated, which appears that it has. Who violated it, and who is responsible? And already we hear widespread arguments developing.
"Just a few moments before coming here, V.P. of the U.S. Joe Biden said he is completely satisfied that this was directed by the Assad government. … I respect him, and he may well be satisfied, but I want to make this point to you. … Him being completely satisfied is not the same as the evidence being made available to the world public.
"If it is the case that the evidence exists, (then) the U.S. and all people who are interested in this terrible problem need to have it demonstrated, not just stated, but demonstrated, that it is beyond doubt, incontrovertible that this was directed by the Syrian regime. And if that proves to be the case, then the whole issue of what action to be taken gets to be a whole lot clearer."
On if action should be taken: 
"Let's say it's clear that chemical weapons were used. I am prepared to say that. It has all the appearance of that … and it would be best to verify that with a lot more hard evidence, but let's say that's a given. What we don't know is who directed that action, and that is crucial in determining what "punishment," as Joe Biden called it. The French minister has been saying there must be a consequence, a price to be paid for having done this.
"In principle, I agree with that, because the norm of the non-use of chemical weapons is so precious, but we must be sure we are punishing the right person, and I am taking the purely intellectual or perhaps political point that it's in everyone's interest that the identification of that person or that authority of the person who is responsible and not on the basis of gut feeling … we need hard evidence to show the world proof. Once that is done, the picture will look very different indeed. …
"The truth is, we in the West have no authority within Syria. The president of the United States has said today, he is not interested in and not contemplating regime change within Syria, and God bless him for that, because that in my opinion is the correct policy. …
"The (U.N.) Security Council is the framework of international law, and an incredibly important piece of that international law is the chemical weapons convention. And the charter of the U.N. and the chemical weapons convention both make it incredibly clear that the only authentic way in which military action could be taken to rectify a wrong is if the Security Council agrees to it, and we will never get that agreement … unless instead of claiming what we think to be the case, we can prove to the Council with fact that it is the case, that the Assad regime authorized this.
"And then the possibility of concerted international action with the correct authority, the authority of the Security Council and international law, it will put us in a very different situation from the very worrying one where a small group of countries might think that they can enforce the law."

Tuesday 27 August 2013

Miami imam gets 25 years for supporting Pakistani Taliban

A Miami imam convicted of funneling tens of thousands of dollars to the Pakistani Taliban was sentenced Friday to 25 years in prison.
U.S. District Judge Robert Scola levied the sentence against Hafiz Khan, a U.S. citizen and Pakistani native who ran the Miami Masjid, also known as the Flager Mosque.
A jury in March found Khan, 78, guilty of four charges that accused him of supporting and conspiring to support terrorists and a terrorist organization.
The charges alleged Khan, who prosecutors said ran the Miami mosque since at least 1999, sent money and other support from the United States to the Pakistani Taliban and its supporters from at least 2008 to 2010.
The charges also accused Khan of using a madrassa, or Muslim religious school, that he founded in Pakistan to shelter and support Pakistani Taliban militants.

U.N. probes alleged gas attack; U.S. warns Damascus

U.N. experts got to inspect the site of a reported chemical attack on civilians near Syria's capital Monday as the United States accused the Syrian government of trying to cover up the attack.
The U.N. inspectors entered the town of Moadamiyet al-Sham and appeared to be examining the area accompanied by doctors, according to videos posted on social media by Syrian activists. The team had a "very productive" day and will continue its work Tuesday after examining its findings Monday evening, U.N. spokesman Farhan Haq said in New York.
Government and opposition forces have accused each other of unleashing poison gas last week in the suburban Damascus area of Ghouta. Syria's opposition said that as many as 1,300 people were killed, prompting new calls for Western powers to intervene in the country's 2-year-old civil war.
In Washington, U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry called the use of chemical weapons a "moral obscenity" that could not go unanswered, and he said Syrian actions are "not the behavior of a government that has nothing to hide."
Syrian civil war in photos Syrian civil war in photos
Kerry: Chemical use a 'moral obscenity'
Syria's wounded treated in Israel
Horrific video we must show you
Kerry stopped short of directly accusing President Bashar al-Assad's government of a massacre. But he said, "We know that the Syrian regime maintains custody of these chemical weapons. We know that the Syrian regime has the capacity to do this with rockets. We know that the regime has been determined to clear the opposition from those very places where the attacks took place."
Meanwhile, he said that Syria was "systemically destroying evidence" of last week's attack by continuing to shell the area and that the danger the team faced Monday "only further weakens the regime's credibility." The Obama administration is now weighing how to respond in talks with U.S. allies and members of Congress, he said.
"Nothing today is more serious, and nothing is receiving more serious scrutiny," Kerry said.
Monday's examination took place after unidentified snipers shot multiple times at a vehicle used by the U.N. team and after an explosion near the site inspectors planned to visit, the United Nations said. There were no reports of injuries.
U.N. officials did not say who was behind the shooting or the explosion, which witnesses said may have been caused by a mortar shell. The Syrian government accused "terrorists" of firing on the inspectors, Syrian state TV reported.
U.N. Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon said inspectors visited hospitals, interviewed witnesses, survivors and doctors and collected some samples. Speaking from Seoul, South Korea, Ban said he has directed the group to register a "strong complaint" to government and opposition forces to make sure the team's safety is guaranteed.
The Syrian government agreed to grant the inspectors full access on Sunday, pledging to cease all hostilities as long as the team was on the ground, the United Nations said. And an umbrella group for the Syrian opposition, the Syrian National Coalition, said rebel forces would ensure the safety of any U.N. personnel in the area.
But the government would not let U.N. inspectors approach the site for days, and the team feared that the chemical evidence may have dissipated.
Attacks could reinforce poison gas 'taboo'
Middle East analyst Richard Haass told CNN's The Lead that Kerry's comments "went far out on a limb" and indicate that a U.S. strike on Syria was in the works, with or without U.N. Security Council backing. Haass, the president of the Council on Foreign Relations, said military action was needed "to underscore the principle, the norm, the taboo that these weapons ought to have."
"No one, Syria or anybody else, now and forevermore, should be able to use such weapons, much less biological or nuclear weapons, with impunity," he said. But he said Washington should limit its intervention in the conflict, "so we don't get enmeshed in what I think could become a quagmire."
"If we want to help the opposition, the best way to do it is through considerable arming of those elements of the opposition with agendas we can support," he said.
But with Syria already seen as a proxy war that has been spilling across its neighbors' borders for months, the prospects for improvement aren't likely to be aided by American airstrikes, said Andrew Tabler, a senior fellow at the Washington Institute for Near East Policy.
"This is just going to be one chapter in a very long struggle we have in Syria," Tabler told CNN's The Situation Room.
Russia, Syria's leading ally, has raised sharp objections to the possibility of any outside intervention. Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov said Monday that reports of the use of chemical weapons must be "thoroughly and professionally investigated" and submitted to the U.N. Security Council.
At a news conference Monday, Lavrov said there's no proof yet that the Syrian government was involved in last week's reported attack. And Sunday, a Foreign Ministry statement compared the Western allegations against Syria to the claims that Iraq was hoarding weapons of mass destruction before the U.S. invasion in 2003 -- claims that fell apart once American troops began searching for them.
Charles Duelfer, the former head of U.S. weapons inspection teams in Iraq, said the U.N. experts will be looking to collect evidence from witnesses and survivors of last week's attack, including samples that can be analyzed later.
"They'll be looking for remnants of the munitions, which could be sophisticated munitions that a military would have -- or if it turns out, unexpectedly, to be the case that the insurgents had cobbled together some sort of CW capability, maybe they'll find that," Duelfer said.
Duelfer said he expects the U.S. government has its own sources: "Presumably, the National Security Agency can listen to people besides the United States, so they may have data which the weapons inspectors may not have," he told The Situation Room. But while Washington's evidence may be solid, U.N. inspectors "provide credibility across the board."
"When they say something, presumably all countries will say. 'OK, we can accept that, they don't have a dog in that fight,' " Duelfer said.
U.S. officials have said they have no credible evidence pointing to opposition groups using chemical weapons. And the Obama administration is expected to declassify the intelligence assessment backing up its assertion that the Syrian regime was responsible for last week's attack before any U.S. military action would take place, a senior administration official said Monday.
That evidence "includes but is not limited to" satellite images of activity at Syrian military installations identified as including chemical weapons depots, a senior administration official familiar with the intelligence told CNN.
And Kerry said he had argued to Syrian Foreign Minister Walid Moallem last week that if the government had nothing to hide, "then their response should be immediate: immediate transparency, immediate access, not shelling."
"Failure to permit that, I told him, would tell its own story," he said.
Al-Assad: It wasn't us
The Pentagon has sent four warships armed with cruise missiles to the region, and Obama will be presented with final options regarding actions against Syria in the next few days, a senior administration official said Monday.
But as U.S. muscle plows the waters of the eastern Mediterranean Sea, al-Assad on Monday repeated his government's denial that his army had anything to do with the use of poison gas.
"The area of the claimed attack is in contiguity with the Syrian army positions, so how is it possible that any country would use chemical weapons in an area where its own forces are located?" he asked in an interview with Russian newspaper Izvestia.
Al-Assad accused the United States, Britain and France of exploiting the incident by trying to verify rebel allegations instead of verifying facts.
The use of a large amount of chemical weapons would cross a "red line" and threaten U.S. interests in the region, Obama announced last year. Tabler, who has had extensive contacts with al-Assad, said the Syrian leader may have watched as Washington reacted cautiously to previous reports of chemical warfare and gambled incorrectly that last week's attack would draw a similar response.
"I think he thought that he could push the envelope again and that he could actually show his own people that no one is going to come to their rescue," Tabler said.
Syria agrees to let U.N. investigate
World reacts to alleged chemical attack
McCain: Obama 'too cautious' on Syria
Syrian opposition's war strategy
Opposition accusations
Opposition members say rockets with chemical payloads were among the ordnance government troops unleashed at the rebel stronghold of Ghouta early Wednesday. More than 1,300 people died, most of them by gas, according to opposition spokesman Khaled al-Saleh.
The opposition backed up the allegations with gruesome video of rows of dead bodies, including women and children. They had no visible wounds, and some appeared to be bloated. The aid agency Medecins sans Frontieres said three hospitals it supports in Syria's Damascus governorate reported having received about 3,600 patients displaying neurotoxic symptoms on Wednesday morning.
But according to Syrian state-run television's depiction of events, government forces came into contact with a gas attack on Saturday in Jobar, on the edge of Damascus. Several of the soldiers were "suffocating" from exposure to gases as they entered the city, according to state TV.
"It is believed that the terrorists have used chemical weapons in the area," Syrian TV reported, citing an anonymous source. The government uses the term "terrorists" to describe rebel forces.
Broadcast video showed a room containing gas masks, gas canisters and other paraphernalia that could be used in a gas attack. The army said it uncovered the cache in a storage facility in the area.
CNN could not independently confirm the authenticity of video shown by the government or rebels.

Being Friends With Women - Is this Possible ?

Being friends with women', it sounds as if one desperately wants to have something really sweet but somehow, realizes that he is diabetic. We all know that women are the most difficult, yet enchanting creatures, (Oh! For all you ladies out there, We mean to say that women are the ‘charming beauties’), but what is more difficult, it is to understand the complexity of their minds. We wonder about that brain which makes a woman say ‘we are just friends’ (We mean it is quite heart dwelling to hear that). This vicious ‘Friend Zone’ is an impossible riddle to solve, so let’s not go into the complicated question of ‘being just friends’ and just find out the benefits of being in the friend zone with a woman.
Don’t you like to be in the company of the woman you seriously adore? The answer is definitely a big ‘yes’. But you just don’t want to be in the Friend Zone.
Hmm…. Don’t worry champ, trust us, women are so very much confused in themselves that they start thinking when there is absolutely no need to think (hey ladies! We just mean to say that you all belong to a class of great ‘Thinkers’). Being a woman’s friend provides you an opportunity to understand her.
Find out what she likes the most, what are her dislikes, her mood swings, and many other important traits about her personality. (And even after knowing so much about a woman, you actually understand nothing. So, friendship with women definitely makes you eligible for a Nobel).
Well! We have nothing personal against women (You believe us?), but like every coin has two sides, similarly there are some jolly good benefits of making friends with a woman. Its biggest advantage is that it gives a man more time to judge whether the person he loves is really the right choice or not.
A man can be with that woman of his dreams and judge, if his choice is really a worth. The irritating friend zone provides an opportunity for some introspection to the man. The undying affection or the so-called pure and true love can also be tested during these times as you will be able to understand gradually whether you both are really made for each other or is that just a case of you being mad for her.
Women use this friend zone in order to feel absolutely secure as well as to remain tension-free and enjoy life. They think (take into consideration ‘think’) that they can act cleverly, by making a lover cum foolish friend dance on their tunes. We agree that women are quite balanced in their approach and their brain is indeed like that of a chameleon (Oops! We think we did it again.)
Some men, on the other hand, are no less than these ‘ever friendly’ women. In fact, they are more dumbos as they just don’t want friendship with woman, as it zeroes their chances of having sex with them. C’mon guys have a chill pill and think with a cool head. You will realize that it is more fun in being just a friend with a woman.
Sex is not the only thing for you and for making the woman realize that you are the best thing that ever happened to her, you have to be with her (and Sex would eventually happen as it is a gradual process).
However, the need is to understand the right techniques of how to enrich the benefits of being in the friend zone with a woman. So, champ it depends upon you, as how you extract the benefits of this intriguing situation and after a bit of introspection, turn the circumstances into your favour, but do it only if you realize that you really want to do so.
Till then have fun!!!

Parents' Divorce Affects Kids' Social Skills

A recent study has resulted out in a fact that kids of divorced parents do not perform good, both socially and academically. Check the details here:
In this world, a child always seeks and looks up to his parents for any need or emotional support. But when parents decide to get separated without giving a thought to what will happen to the life of their child, this situation delivers many worries for the kid. There are many examples when kids see their parents fighting and using foul language against each other. That is why such children do not grow as confident and intelligent individuals. This is also because they never get the right kind of guidance to handle the situations and difficulties of life. Thus, a disturbed parent relationship can even disturb the whole life of a kid. So, take a look here at a review about a new study that has stamped this aspect with their research. View inside!!

Parents' Separation harms Kids' Social Skills and Personality

This issue was published in the issue of American Sociological Review. And it was done by Hyun Sik Kim who is a PhD candidate in sociology at the University of Wisconsin Madison. She used data from early childhood longitudinal study described more than 3,500 U.S elementary school students who started going to kindergarten in 1998.
Here, subjects of parents were also made while checking their impact on children on periodic basis. It made the task of detecting the period of families in which they went through divorce. And it also provided the state of conditions of after and before periods of the divorce. The result of the research showed that children performed poor in maths in the period of the proceedings of their parent's divorce. However, there was a section of children who showed no issue while their parents were divorcing. Thus, a conclusion was made out that, on one hand, divorce can affect the overall individuality of a child. And on the other, children even learn to cope up with such drastic situations at some point of time.
In fact, this study also stressed on the point, like every wound heals, so children start learning to cope up with the worse conditions at their home. But, in the long run of life, they do not become as good individuals as the children of intact families do. Thus, to save a child, to whom, you have given life, do not act in hastiness, forget your differences and try to stay united to make your special kid the most confident and intelligent person. In the end, it would be wiser to say that even if you don't complement each other much, kids should be the main purpose of your living together forever!!

Over 40? 15 Tips To Easily Lose Inches and Look (and feel) Sexier Than Ever

Here are my simple tips for losing weight and keeping it off. They are all very simple tips. They all work for me, but everyone is different. I would honestly love to know what works for you!
I strongly prefer simple actionable tips, that work with what you enjoy. Nothing else will work long term.
Disclaimer: I have never read a weight loss book. I have absolutely no scientific knowledge.:
1. Weigh yourself every day. I keep an eye on my weight, by having the scales next to my shower. It may seem obsessive, but it helps me not to lose focus. My weight seems to fluctuate within a 2 kg range randomly. I don’t panic if it gets to the top of the range.
2. Water is the key. I don’t know why, but drinking water really helps me. The more water I drink, the better my body functions. (If you don’t like water, put a few drops of apple juice in the glass to give it some flavor.) And I don’t stop drinking before I weigh myself, because I would be kidding myself. Weight loss starts with honesty to yourself.
3. Avoid processed foods. The basic rule – all packaged, processed food is unhealthy. I avoid it, where possible. Not easy, but worth the effort. The interest of food companies is certainly NOT your health.
4. Avoid sugary drinks and fast food You know it. Don’t be fooled by low calorie or diet claims. These foods and drinks are only making you fat and miserable.
5. Get 7 hours of quality sleep. Staying healthy is about basics. Water and sleep are my basics. I make sure I get enough sleep. I aim for 7 hours minimum and 8 hours at the weekend. I also have a really good quality bed, to make sure I get quality sleep. I know a good bed is not cheap, but it is one of life’s bargains because quality of life is much higher if you get good sleep. And it helps my body function better. Strange but true.
6. Get off that couch. In my mind, losing weight is 33% about food, 33% about giving your body what it needs to function (rest, water, etc) and 33% about moving. TV is simply a waste of my time, especially if I am sitting on a couch and have chips to go with it. If I need the TV, I can go to a health club with exercise machines with a TV attached. But better still – avoid the TV and do some social sports. And I try to avoid late-night TV. It is wrong in so many ways.
7. Salad is important. I am not really fond of the taste of salad. But my body seems to like it. And the strange thing is, once I take a bite or 2 of salad, I find it difficult to stop eating it. I am convinced that it is a large part of losing weight, but I can’t explain why. It is a large part of every meal I eat.
8. Eat fish, vegetables and fruit where possible. You hear this regularly. And I believe it is true. Fish, vegetables and fruit make me feel healthier and more energetic, and I am told there is more nutrition and less calories.
9. Ignore scientific evidence… First red wine was the answer to a long life. Then red wine was not healthy and the guy who claimed it was discredited. Then … Frankly, I don’t care. I love a glass of red wine, yoghurt, honey, a cup of coffee, sultana’s, the occasional burger and chips, etc. Let them prove what they want, as long as they let me make up my own mind.

Where The Good Guys Are: A Guided Tour

The true puzzle of our time, the question that leaves so many otherwise intelligent women and gay men scratching their heads with all of the earnest obliviousness of a cheerleader, that riddle of riddles: Where are all the good guys? Let me tell you, they exist. Those elusive little unicorns of the healthy savings account and calling you back in a reasonable amount of time can, indeed, be found. One just needs to know where to look. Allow me to take you on a mystical journey through their natural habitats. Allow me to be your Bear Grylls of finding guys who are happy to meet your parents. Follow me.
1. He will be at school/ work: It kind of sucks to think about, but if you are looking for someone who takes even the slightest interest in his future/ the mark he will one day leave on the world, and is not content to just write four opening pages of a new novel every year, he’s probably going to be busy sometimes. He will be in libraries, staying late at work, going home relatively early on the weekdays, and generally getting shit done. Wouldn’t it be so much sexier to ride off into the sunset on a motorcycle, arms wrapped around a spindly guitarist who is secretly boning your best friend? Oh, yes, it would. But good guys will be putting all of that extra sleep energy into taking out the trash, waiting for you at the doctor, and listening to you talk about your feelings. Your feelings.
2. He will not be at gross clubs: No truly good guy frequents any place with a 20 dollar cover for men and 15 dollar cocktails. He doesn’t hang out where the only playlist is David Guetta, David Guetta, and MORE DAVID GUETTA. He doesn’t feel comfortable in a place called “Platinum” or “Red Russian” or “Bungalow 9 and 3/4″ or wherever you’re going to make a fool of yourself on the weekends. And I’m the first to admit, I love going out with the girls occasionally and dancing in a small solar system around the prettiest one and retiring to the bathrooms every 30 minutes. But I am under no illusions that my future husband lurks amongst the bros, frat boys, and egregiously under-buttoned men lingering around the perimeter of the dance floor. The best you can hope for with a guy you meet at a club is that he won’t vomit on you on the taxi ride over to his place for the horrifying one-night-stand.
3. He will be clawing fruitlessly at the walls of the friend zone: If we’re going to get real about things, we should just all collectively admit that the truly good guys who have passed through/ awkwardly remain a part of our lives have been quickly, neatly, and firmly placed into the friendzone. Mike just loves you so much, and you love him, too — he is like the brother you never had. You can fall asleep on the same bed after hours of conversation about the guys you’re interested in and not ever touch, not even once! In all seriousness, though, eventually we’re going to have to accept that the men we’re happy to reject when we’re 22 and surrounded by hot, emotionally deceptive chain smokers is going to be the man we would kill for when our biological clocks are ticking so loud we can’t hear ourselves think anymore. At least put the poor guy on a five-year plan.
4. He will not be looking at your blog: In case you actually did manage to fall for a nice guy, find him and decide, despite how dreadfully responsible and loving he is, to want him back — simply calling out over the plains of the internet won’t do. In no alternate universe will the guy you want see that Death Cab quote on your Tumblr and say to himself, “Oh my god! ‘They thought it less like a lake, and more like a moat’? I LOVE HER, TOO!!!!” No. The world does not work like that, and you can’t blame the good guy for not reaching out to you and risking the venomous, fatal sting of a young female rejection if the only information you’re giving for him to go on is, “He’s got a love like woe </3.”
5. He will not be attending super-cool events: I don’t want to make generalizations here, but let’s just say that a rough 97 percent of all men who care if they were photographed at the right party, are wearing the coolest kind of sneaker, or lose sleep over their Twitter follower count are going to hit it and quit it after two weeks maximum. I know that we all like to imagine that the sexy, interesting, incredibly well-dressed men who woo us at bars with their thrilling career in social media and friendship with Tyler the Creator will do anything but make us feel like gerbil droppings, but they won’t. They do not love us, they love themselves. And rightfully so, someone has to obsess over whether or not they’re getting red carpet access at that bullshit premiere. Occasionally men who have attained this kind of fame can hold onto their intelligence, their cunning, and their compassion — but I contest that it is so rare as to be impossible. One could argue James Franco stands as a shining example, but let’s be real, that man is not a human being. TC mark

What Men Really Think About Your Body

You Say “Flawed”, He Says “Sexy”: What Men Really Think About Your Body

This may come as a shock to you but guys have different eyeballs than you do. You know why I’m saying that?
Because when YOU look at yourself in the mirror, you see that front tooth that’s a bit crooked, the line where your bra presses in (you call this your “back fat”), the too-small breasts or the too-wide rear, your goofy knees, funny toes…. The list goes on and on.
But you know what your MAN sees? A woman he’d love to strip naked and get busy with right this instant, maybe sooner. My personal body part confession… Maybe you have a muffin top “thing,” but I used to HATE my feet.
When I was a teenager, I had surgery on my big toes (bunions, it’s such an ugly word!!) and for the next 20 years I zealously covered my feet. I never EVER owned a pair of sandals or open-toed shoes and would have died before I let a man openly look at my feet. I have a big scar running the length of both big toes. My second toe is longer. My feet are… wanky. You know. Ugh, I could make myself MISERABLE thinking about my feet.
Shockingly, amazingly, wonderfully, I found a man actually willing (he would say, desperate!) to marry me.
I hope you’re laughing now, but at the time, I found it next to impossible to think about what kind of man would marry me “even with these feet.”

3 ways MEN see your body…

If you asked my man which of my physical attributes attracted him, it’s really hard for him to move past the standard T&A answer you’d probably get from any man. You can almost see a physical effort as he drags his sex-craving brain past the chest, past the butt, and FINALLY he’ll tell you something like, “She has gorgeous shoulders…”
I bet he didn’t even know I had scars on my feet for the first 10 years we were married.
Here’s the thing: Men see your body in three ways, and it’s nothing like the way you see yourself.

1. They see what makes you WOMANLY

This means when they look at you they instantly notice the things about your body that make you uniquely a woman. Breasts, hips, ass, curves… Even the way you walk. It’s nearly impossible for a red-blooded heterosexual male to notice anything before they read the parts of your body that say: I am a woman.
Your arm flaps do not make this list. Your cellulite does not make this list. Your stretch marks do not make this list. Sorry.

2. They see what makes you UNIQUE

That chipped tooth you hate? They think it’s kind of charming. The muffin top? They can’t see it because it’s too near your ass, which they think is the finest thing in nine counties. Do you think your lips are too thin? They just love it when you smile at them. (And truthfully, when they think about your lips on their body, they are NOT thinking “Oh her lips are too thin.” I PROMISE.)
If guys notice a particular body part of yours that you think makes you hideous (and I guarantee you they would never use that term) they just think it makes you uniquely…you! And since it’s YOU they are desperate for, they want that part of you as much as the others.

3. They see what you constantly draw their attention to

This is where you have the power to rock or ruin a relationship.
When you constantly complain about your own body, a man’s desire to enjoy and love you are being eroded a little at a time. In other words, you’re rejecting him. He thinks, “I could touch her body all day,” and you say, “I’m too flabby.” You’re not only tearing yourself down, you’re tearing HIM – his thoughts, his desires for you, his excitement about you – down.
And it works the other way, too. Show off your pedicure (I do, now!), go sleeveless, wear that backless dress, and ruthlessly tease him with the body he absolutely adores.

A man loves a REAL woman

Of course he looks at the naked, “perfect” girls in the magazine or online. And of course you’re bombarded with “perfect” skinny chicks on the runway or the billboard.
But a picture of perfection – whether it’s real or not – is no competition whatsoever for a living, breathing, fragrant woman sitting next to a man at a restaurant. Or pressed slightly against him in the elevator. Perfection can go hang; you are up close and personal.
Stepford wives are creepy. You can be assured that while he might fantasize about a playmate of the month, he’ll take a real woman over a figment of his imagination EVERY time.

Celebrate your body (and let him do it, too)!

Of course you want to invest time and energy into a healthy, beautiful body. But meanwhile, don’t let your own issues with your body drive him away. You deserve all the fabulous man-attention as he wants to give you!

How to make a man fall in love with you

Maybe you’re still waiting for that amazing guy to come along… Is there anything YOU can do to get him here and in your life, right now? Listen to the story of how one woman “tamed” renowned relationship expert Michael Fiore, and almost magically got HIM to decide it was time to stop playing the field.

9 Realizations About Love We Never Have Until It’s Too Late

1. Love cannot be deceptive, malicious or conniving. We are the ones who become those things when we hold onto love for our own selfish reasons, and then let it go when we no longer need someone to fill those spaces within us. It’s not the love that hurts us, it’s everything else that gets in the way.
2. There’s no right or wrong time for love. Usually when someone says something along those lines, it means they don’t want to be with you for one reason or another. People have made love work across continents and through wars and past death. You either will or you won’t.
3. Love is not limited to the romantic definition that we most often associate it with. It is the essence of who we are. It is the fiber of our beings. Our physical bodies react to romantic love the most drastically, and so we almost become addicted to that high for it’s ease-of-access when someone gives it to us. The truth is that love is present in many other simple ways we don’t have enough temperance to reach within ourselves.
4. The only love you need is your own. I know, I know how many thousands of times you’ve probably heard this– but it’s so unbearably true I cannot help but say it again. The truth is that when seeking love, what we’re really seeking is something to make our lives worthwhile. Unfortunately, if you find that foundation in someone else, once they are gone, your building collapses.
5. People get into and stay in relationships for a thousand different reasons that have nothing to do with love. Don’t ever assume you understand. Love, or at least the perception that we have it, seems like an instant cure-all for many of life’s emotional ailments.
6. The best love is the love that changes you and inspires you to be better. You can live with a love that is comfortable, or you can be challenged by a love that moves you forth. I think that people with the most passionate, fulfilling lives are the ones who choose the latter.
7. At any given moment, you can choose love. You will spend your entire life waiting until you think you’re “ready” for it, but that’s nothing more than a ploy to protect yourself because you don’t want to be hurt again.
8. You don’t have to be entirely certain all the time. You are allowed to have doubts. You are allowed to be absolutely terrified but absolutely enamored by someone at the same time. You’re supposed to have issues. You’re going to have challenges. Love is never a clean-cut and easily understood phenomenon. It usually doesn’t make sense, and that’s because you usually can’t use your mind to make sense of love. It’s using the right key on the wrong door.
9. When it comes to love, like many other things in life, you always know in your heart what the right thing to do is, it’s all a matter of having the courage to do it. You know when you should leave. You know who you should be with, and who you shouldn’t. It’s never a matter of not knowing, it’s a matter of letting yourself embrace that knowing despite your mind’s objections. Despite what consequences your irrational, nonsensical love could yield. TC mark